Ok so I have to give the credit for the title to my brother-in-law Cooley Cooley ^_^
In February of 2006 I was diagnosed as suffering form severe, chronic depression. Although the diagnosis occurred in ’06 I think that I actually started feeling depressed back around 1999 or the year 2000. During those years we attributed the depression to other, spiritual struggles I was facing. At the time of my diagnosis I did not understand how dramatically the path I would take in life had been changed. I don’t mean a small change either. I am talking about a course correction of ninety degrees.
The first challenge, other than the day-to-day ones, that I faced was that I was sent home early from my religious mission in
I feel that the second challenge I faced was the most life-changing. For years the dream of the future that I held showed me as a commissioned officer in the United States Air Force and retiring after twenty or more years of service. This being my goal I decided that a Reserve Officer Training Corps (ROTC) program at college was the best way of starting my Air Force career. When I returned from my mission in
Another challenge presented itself my second semester at BYU-I. For reasons I am not aware of my depression worsened severely. I reached the point where I was suicidal. Fortunately I did not kill myself at that time. At the same time I realized that in my current mental state I could not continue under the strain of college life. I had to do something else. I did not want to return to
The last big challenge I’ll mention here started just two and a half weeks ago on the sixth of January. I had been pretty depressed for a couple months, but never too seriously. At around 1:00 pm on the sixth I was struck by an overwhelming feeling of despair and hopelessness and a desire to end my life. At that moment I began formulating a plan to do so. Two days later I was sitting in a mental hospital in
Now we come to the real meat of this entry. The previous paragraphs showed major consequences of my depression and my reactions to it. They did not describe, however, the real challenges of dealing with depression. If you have not experienced severe depression, bi-polar disorder or a similar illness I do not think that you can understand the severity of the despair, helplessness, hopelessness, frustration, anxiety, sorrow, fear and self-loathing that we who carry these ailments feel. I believe that in spite of the hell we wade through on a daily basis we, the depressed, have a gift or two given to us that others are denied of. As I continue to use the words “we” or “us” I mean those with depression, etc.
I believe that we are able to feel more than others do because of the sheer intensity of the emotions that we are plagued by. I believe that we feel each emotion with a greater intensity. I think that this is a result of the fact that our minds or hearts have to compensate in a sense for the sorrow, fear or other negative emotions we are weighed under. In writing this I thought of an interesting emotional paradox. As I said, we are weighed down by more intense negative emotions, resulting in an intensifying of our positive ones, just as a person carrying a large stone everywhere will become stronger than one who is not. The paradox comes into play in that although we feel the positive emotions more strongly than others; the underlying depression counteracts that strength because of our increased susceptibility to the negative emotions.
Another “gift” that we, the depressed, have is an increased potential for compassion or empathy. Not all of those suffering from depression are able to use this gift because the original sense of empathy must already be in place. I say that we have a greater potential for empathy because when you have reached the emotional rock bottom and then been ground down ever further, you have felt it all. You are able to relate to others’ pain more easily than someone who has not felt as “down.” Now couple that ability to understand others’ pain and sorrow with the intensity of emotion I mentioned earlier. I think that two things can come from this blend. On one hand you can have a person able to understand and feel another’s pain and be able to share or help alleviate that burden, or at the very least be able to know how to comfort that person. The other result is a person who is unable to channel or separate the added emotions felt from others and is “brought down” into an even deeper state of personal depression.
The ability to create is another major “gift” that many of the depressed have. It is remarkable to note how many of the world’s greatest artists suffered from depression. In Susanna Kaysen’s book, Girl, Interrupted she tells of her stay in a mental hospital near
These are only some of the “gifts” accompanying depression. I continue using quotation marks around the word “gift” because we can benefit from them, but oh the price we pay for them! I would not wish depression upon the worst of my enemies. The torment we feel can be and for some is unbearable. It amazes me what has been accomplished by some people while they bore this burden. Abraham Lincoln suffered from severe depression. Just look at what he did. Heber J. Grant was a giant in the religious world and suffered from depression. The list of artists, of course, is immense, but to name a few…Ray Charles, Michelangelo, Ernest Hemingway, Emily Dickenson and Vincent Van Gogh. Van Gogh did eventually succumb to the depression and took his own life, but look at what he created while alive.
The potential we depressed have in any aspect of life is great. Our struggle however, is one of survival - not only survival, but living as well. I can survive my depression by not completely giving in to the sorrow and hopelessness, but the real challenge is to accomplish great things in spite of and because of my depression. My struggle and that of so many others is to live. And we can!